Observations of the Lifestyle

The lifestyle is NOT just about fucking other people, couples and singles alike.  It's about the relationships you develope with others to build a safe environment to be real and experience pleasure on an emotional and physical level leaving the spiritual level (oneness) with the one you love.  Going to parties for us is more of a social event that test the chemistry and connection to establish the desire for a pleasurable physical and emotional exchange.  I'm not talking about being polygamous, I'm talking about opening yourself up  to pleasure on an emotional level to allow your desired to be seduced by another in safety.  What do you think?